What makes you ask a girl out

In the one of the newsletters I send to subscribers when you sign up for my newsletter you can take our free Girls Skills Diagnostic to find out how good you are with girls, get a free report on what you should focus on first, and sign up to the newsletter I discuss the most important difference between men and women. Women don't decide things because they logically make sense; women decide things because they emotionally do. You can create laughter yourself with teasing and flirtation.

And you can get her to start telling you about herself with deep diving. If she's smiling and talking with you and laughing, that's a pretty good indication she's enjoying herself with you -- and that she's open to spending more time with you. Put these tips in play to help you step up your game -- and get way more yeses from the girls you want. No ice-skating, hot air balloon rides, laser tag death matches, or trips to Paris.

It's a date Picture a girl who really likes you, and wants to go on a date where she talks to you and gets to know you, but instead you ask her to go play laser tag. Overactive dates that try to be too "fun" can oftentimes end up being too much for girls and they'll say "no" I've frequently turned down girls I liked for dates when they asked me to parties or off on some crazy adventure. Because I didn't want to do those things, and I figured nothing would happen.

Nothing's going to happen at a party date where you're surrounded by her friends. You won't get to know her more there, and you can't get together with her in front of a crowd. And nothing's going to happen with the two of you rappelling down a cliff face. You'll be too tired afterward for anything to happen there either.

But they're not great ideas for someone you're attracted to and want to be with. Many of the girls who say "no" to fun dates would rather just get to know you than do off-the-wall activities Many of the girls who say "yes" to fun dates really just want to have fun -- and could care less who they're going with! They're there for the activity, not for you, and your odds of doing anything other than having a nice friendly outing are not great. But guys often take women's refusal to go on these sorts of high-energy crazy "fun" dates as a universal refusal, when it might just be the activity a girl was rejecting -- not them.

To get around this, stay away from inviting girls on crazy wild fun dates, keep your dates simple , and just invite them on relaxed ones where you can talk. Pick a date template -- something simple -- stick to it, and you should be fine. All you really need is something laid back where the two of you can talk and get to know each other and build connections One really common mistake I see guys make is trying to shoehorn women into their schedules with no consideration for the girl's schedule.

What I started doing a while back and works great is the innovative get ready for it process of There is even research on this which I discovered long after I figured this out myself that finds you're more likely to get a date if you ask a girl's schedule first.

So, instead of floating her a time there's no way to know she'll be free for, or one convenient for her so she doesn't flake on you , just let her tell you the day s and time s she's free.

You: We should grab a drink or a bite some time this week. You: When's good for you Her: Umm, let's see. I'm really packed most of the week You: Okay, great. Sunday afternoon would be perfect. Let's say 1 o'clock maybe? You: Perfect. Let's say 1 o'clock then; meet me at my subway station maybe? And we'll grab some food? That sound good? No rejection from her on date or time. No wondering what to do when girls flake -- because flakes largely disappear.

You're seeing her on a date at a time that works fine for her -- that makes it easy for her to say yes, and easy for her to not miss it. Make it as easy for her to say "yes" in the moment and show up on the day of your date as you can without overextending yourself.

That said -- if you'd like a way to ask a girl out to get her out that very night , then give this Girls Chase video a watch. Hector will show you exactly how to pull this off:. Have you ever set up a date with a girl, then proceeded to ask her, "So, what do you want to do?

Do you want to see a movie, get some food, check out the shopping mall? There's an excellent reason why you never want to do the 'indecisive guy thing': most girls don't like having to make the decisions! So, after we've found a time that works for her schedule and I can fit into my schedule, I stop asking for her to figure things out. I just make proposals and ask her if those proposals work for her.

Also, on the same note, you really don't want to let girls plan the date for logistical reasons, either. If she has an idea, it's usually better that you can't make it -- unless that idea is conducive to seduction. These all fall under the category of " bad first date. Because they violate those 5 Cs of Dating I mentioned in the article just linked to.

For a refresher, those 5 Cs are:. A big part of the reason why guys get nervous asking girls out is because they don't know exactly what they're doing. If you choose a good first date idea, you know exactly what you're doing: you're taking her on a date she'll like, where the two of you can get to know each other I remember when I used to get this surge of fear and adrenaline before asking a girl out. Like I was going to get stabbed in the hip or something if she didn't want to go out with me.

The funny thing is, it's just a "no. If she says "no," unless it's incredibly harsh and you just want to hightail it out of there and unless you're doing something way wrong, you will rarely get a harsh "no" , play it off.

If it's a casual no, make it as forgettable as possible so you don't cement any strong rejection or bad emotion feelings in her mind :. You: Oh yeah, well that blows. No good when there's no time for fun. You: You'll get through it. Well, maybe I'll connect with you when you're not so jammed. I'll see you around! At this point you've set yourself up to very easily ping her again in a few weeks and see if she wants to do something then.

No muss, fuss. If it's a firmer rejection, and especially if there's an audience, you can play it off in a quasi-dramatic way to save face:.

You: [put your hand over your heart, gasp, and look away] Jennifer! How can this be! We're meant to be together! You: [half joking voice] How will I cope Or, if there's not an audience you need to save face in front of, and you want to set her up for a possible re-ask:. You: [half joking, half firm voice, with a half smile and playful eye contact] All right, well I want you to reconsider this over the next couple of days, okay?

Because you're going to be sitting there, thinking back to this day, and you're going ot say to yourself, "Damn it, when John asked me out, I should've said yes! Accept her answer and respond quickly even if she turns you down. I just wanted to ask. Make plans for your first date if she says yes. Hopefully, you got a positive response to your message! Firm up the details for the date, put it in your calendar, and take a few minutes to celebrate how well things went.

Method 3. Find out if she is already dating or interested in someone else. Pay attention to the people she talks about often. Check out her social media to see if there are any clues there, too. Check to see if you catch her staring at you. Especially if you are already friends, this can be a great indicator that she may be developing feelings for you.

Observe her body language to tell if she is interested in you or not. Does she approach you and stand or sit near you? Does she touch your arm or shoulder? They mean she is comfortable around you and generally likes you as a person. This is a great sign! Flirt with her to see if she responds positively. Make longer-than-usual eye contact and smile at her. Touch her gently on the arm or shoulder to make physical contact. Compliment her looks and her intelligence.

I wish I could speak in front of people like you. Sample First Date Ideas. Sample Ways to Handle Rejection. A lady I like is two years older than me. She is just the person I'd like to date but I was told the lady should always be younger. Can I go ahead and ask her for a date? Two years difference is nothing and there is no rule that you can't date a woman who is older than you.

In fact, any such assumptions are sexist and ageist, so do what your heart says is the right thing to do, not some strange folk nonsense about age differences in dating. Not Helpful Helpful Make your weirdness your selling point. Help her to see that you are only different rather than odd and that this difference is desirable.

There is absolutely no point changing to suit her -- if you do that, the relationship won't last. There isn't much you can do unless you're prepared to talk directly to her parents to try to "prove" you are responsible and will respect her. The trouble is that if parents have forbidden it, they have their reasons and you will find it hard to sway them. It may be best to wait until she is allowed to date; if you really care for her, she'll still be available.

In the meantime, be good friends and use social media to stay in touch and share things together. Go on a date or two and see how it goes. If you can't stop thinking about the other girl, call it off. Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. By using this service, some information may be shared with YouTube. Helpful 65 Not Helpful 4. Being yourself is the best way to attract someone! Helpful 51 Not Helpful 5.

Helpful 52 Not Helpful This could make her uncomfortable and make you seem pushy. Just let it go and accept her answer. I've been really nervous when approaching a girl for a fire time date Question 1 year ago. Hi my name is Hussein naadhu and I have a huge crush on a girl who is in my class.

I don't want to go to all the details so I will get this straight. I love this girl for 5 years I have seen her looking at me so many times when she sees me noticing she will look another way one day I asked her will you want to be friends with me but she rejected so I changed my hole life for her and she still wasn't interested become friends with me I gived up.

If any one want me to ask her again please give me a idea. Answer 1 year ago. If u ask a girl if she wants to be your friend trust me that that is the most stupid thing to do. It is better if u ask them to go and have a drink just to get to to each other better and if she rejects u which just a no leave her there are a lot of other girls in the world but if she says yes then u chose the place and the time then after the drink if u want u can ask her to meet up another time or if u want it to happened faster u can kiss her if u both had a lot of fun together.

Tip 1 year ago. Hey i got this girl that i like but i dont know how to ask her out Can any one help out. Reply 1 year ago. How about tell her to come to the park a walk and make her laugh and whenever you see that she is even a little bit happy around you ask her if she wants to hang out with you for a dinner as a date I hope I was in any use plz tell me if it worked out.

Hey, I need help. I am in fifth grade and there is a girl I really like. I was wondering if any body has any ideas. Also, I don't know if the girl really likes me. Follow the steps, it works! I just finished grade 7, yes this is during covid and probably dangerous, but I couldn't wait anymore. She had rejected me once, but she was surrounded by friends at the time who were telling her to.

Halfway through July, a lot of my class went to a nearby tennis court to play tennis don't worry we were wearing masks hand sanitizer, etc. When we finished I offered to pick up the tennis balls, and she was the only person who wanted to help me, I took this as good sign, as everyone else went home, I asked her out again, This time she said yes and explained why she rejected me earlier, apparently she had liked me but had gotten rejected herself earlier that same day and wasn't in the mood for a date, OK after everyone else left, we stayed and chatted by the water, the court was next to the ocean.

Yesterday we went the beach by ourselves and I had my first kiss. The trick is, wait for the opportunity, then go for it, don't hesitate. I've been crazy about her for a year.

If you hesitate, you'll never no, rejection only hurts for a bit. Question 2 years ago. Answer 2 years ago.